It is a sad day when this is something to write about. The world we live in is more and more aggressive and accepting towards sin than ever before. Here we are. Here you are reading this.

Your child has access to a private movie theater of naked men and women. 

Don’t believe me? Does he/she have access to a smartphone? What about an iPod?

I love technology. Really, I do. The way we can communicate with people through multiple avenues each day is amazing. Think about it, I can send a brief message to someone across the country in a matter of seconds (texting, emaill, etc). It is fast! Yet, with the advancing of technology, the devil is also at work.

Are Devices Sinful?
 
Devices are in no way sinful in and of themselves. I am writing from a device. Devices are helpful in many regards. So, no they are not sinful. Technology is not a thing to be scared of.
At my church, I will be leading the teens through a series where we will be addressing the heart. Where sin is concerned, the heart is what matters. While porn, and its creators, is lurking around striving to steal your son or daughter’s attention, the issue is the heart.
What Should Our Response Be?
 
As a youth pastor, my role is to assist parents. My role is not to take their God-given role to disciple their child (teen), but to assist and help equip the parents. So, I ask you parents, to be watchful over your children. The devil/the flesh are seeking your child’s attention.

News flash, your child is sinful! How do I know this? First, God says so (Romans 3:23). I experienced sin when I was a teen. As parents, talk with your child about internet use. Please discuss responsible behavior. It is your job to be their loving protector and guide them through life issues.

Relate
Relate with your teen. Their desires may be sinful, but remember you have had desires similar in the past (if
not in the present). It is hard. Dare I say, it sucks at times.
Point To Jesus
 
Point your teenager to Jesus! Point your son or daughter, who is struggling, to Jesus. Use Scripture. While there is a time and place for discipline (this is not the post to discuss such things), every form of correction should be led back Jesus. God has forgiven them. He loves them. Remind them!
God’s grace is enough for your son and daughter.
While it may hurt that your son and (or) daughter is struggling with porn, please do not condemn them. Love them. This is not about you. Do not focus on yourself. Focus on helping your teen!
Consider Protection
 

I cannot write a post on pornography without recommending you to consider Covenant Eyes. Covenant Eyes is one of the leaders in offering protection/accountability in internet safety. While it is not 100% fail proof, I am a strong believer in these kinds of software where you can help your teenager overcome the temptation he or she is facing. Once protected, it is easier to address the heart.

-Justin Davito
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Justin is a husband, father, and a writer. He is passionate about equipping parents, glorifying Jesus, and helping the local church. Justin currently resides in Michigan with his wife and daughter.

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