There have been many posts on the internet about when to leave a local church. Doctrine issues. Which doctrinal issues. Sins in the church. Just to name a few.

However, I want to address the “how.” Some may find this rather interesting that there is a certain way to leave a church. Can’t you just not show up again? While you can just leave, this is not the best way to do it.

If a church follows 1 Timothy 3:1-8; we see that the Pastor and Elders are overseers of the church. They are suppose to be taking care of the church. We must keep this in mind when we are thinking of switching to another church.

1. Pray

Please bring your desires before God. Why do you want to leave this local congregation? Is it for the right reasons, or are you just bored? Ask for Wisdom from God.

2. Ask Others

It is foolish if we think we can figure this out on our own. Ask others for their input. Including your family. If you are the man leading your family, consider their thoughts and desires. What is best for them?

3. Communicate with your leader(s)

This is probably the hardest one church members fail to do. They often just stop coming. This leave the pastor wondering where you are. He is suppose to be your shepherd spiritually, and you just vanished. He should go after you to make sure everything is okay.

However, it is better for you to come to him and seek his input. He is your elder and leader. Tell him what you are thinking. Maybe there is something that he did not see and would address. You don’t know until you communicate with your leader.

Your pastor may give you some solid advice or even encourage you one way or another.

Just by communicating with your pastor, this will give him a better understanding of how to pray for you and the reasons why if you do leave.

4. Assess Your Leaders Input

Pray and talk it over with others, especially your spouse. How did the meeting with your leader go? Was there anything that challenged us? Should we still stay, or should we leave?

5. Communicate your Decision with your Pastor/Leader

No matter what decision you come to, communicate it to your pastor. It could be a “we will stay.” Or, “we have decided to leave.” Or even, “we will stay for now.”

Maybe you have decided you are going to try and help the church change.

These are just a few points that will help you be respectful to your leader at your church when you decide that maybe it is time to worship with a different church body, the leaders will now have an understanding so there will not be any questions to where you are at, and you are seeking others input in this big decision. So, it is a win win win!

What other things should someone do before leaving a church?

-Justin M. Davito

Justin is a husband, father, and a writer. He is passionate about equipping parents, glorifying Jesus, and helping the local church. Justin currently resides in Michigan with his wife and two daughters.

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