A few weeks ago I saw a few videos on planned parenthood. Essentially the videos I saw were trying to promote a documentary on exposing planned parenthood. To be honest, the videos did a good job with their goal.

Granted, the videos were most likely so heavily edited that it could promote some falsehood in the videos. I do understand the power behind video editing.

However, one video I saw was about Planned Parenthood explaining, promoting, encouraging “Torture Sex.” I do not want to get into Torture Sex with too much detail here. Just to clarify briefly what Torture Sex is, torture sex usually includes some kind of pain, not not limited to simply pain. A common acronym is BDSM which includes bondage, discipline, domination, submission, and those who enjoy giving pain, and those who enjoy receiving pain.

Why do I tell you all this?

Sex Saturated

In our sex saturated culture, this should not come as a surprise. Our culture’s idol is sex. Or to say it another way, the way we express our idolatry is through sex.

I have no doubt that I will be raising children in a sex saturated world. I have no reason to doubt that it will be worse than the world I live in–probably a lot worse. So, how do I respond?

Parent’s Responsibility

I am writing this because after watching those Planned Parenthood Exposed videos, it made me think, This is a parent’s responsibility. A lot of parents do not want this responsibility, but…welcome to your new job description!
This is a hard thing to talk about. Sadly, a lot of parents do a poor job at explaining the birds and the bees. Saying things like, “If you have any questions, you can ask,” is simply not acceptable. This is why, if your teen has questions, they are most likely going to google it. Googling sex information is very dangerous for the soul.
Parents, I am asking you to talk with your child. I do not know a good age, but with the pressure from school, peers, and you name it, sex is surrounding them. They need to be explained different sexual things. If you do not talk to them about sexual things in nature, then who will they turn to? Google? Planned Parenthood? Peers? You are their parent(s). They need you.
Yes, it will be uncomfortable, but they need to be explained from a parent who can talk about sexual things and behavior without trying to allure them in.

Parents Know the Bible

Of course, you need to know what the Bible says. Your kids/teens will have questions. When the time comes for me to have the bird and the bees talk, I need to show them the goodness of sex in the Bible. When follow up questions occur, I need to point them to the Bible. When the time comes for me to explain different kinds of sexual desires, toys, etc, what does the Bible say?

I wish our culture was not so focused on sex. I wish I could change that. Sadly, our culture is not just sex saturated, but it is the abuse of sex.

Final Thoughts

I simply do not know what to say. I feel like this post was a bunch of rambling. I am wondering if this post will even make it live. I do not know. What I do know is this, at some point in the future, if God blesses me with children, at some point I need to be the one to initiate the conversation on sexual desires/fantasies. I do not know exactly how much is needed, but as the Spiritual leader of the home and protector, I want sexual advice coming from me as their dad (parent) rather than Planned Parenthood or Google.
-Justin M. Davito


What should our response be?–A blogger linked one of the videos on Planned Parenthood and Torture Sex.
Intended For Pleasure–A good book on why sex is important and good.
Sex and the Supremacy of Christ–A conference in book form from Desiring God! Excellent!

Justin is a husband, father, and a writer. He is passionate about equipping parents, glorifying Jesus, and helping the local church. Justin currently resides in Michigan with his wife and two daughters.

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